You've seen the movies, you've
heard the jokes, you've read the horror stories, but what are
fraternities and sororities really like in Manitoba? The impression
most people have of these organizations comes from watching movies
like Animal House and Legally Blonde. Fraternities and
sororities in Manitoba battle these stereotypes.
Steve Synyshyn, a member of the Alpha Tau chapter of the Delta Kappa
Epsilon fraternity talks of how people he had known for years began to
treat him differently after he joined a fraternity. "It was kind
of awkward, even around some of my good friends," he says.
"People brand you."
The stereotypes that surround
Greek groups are quite strong. Synyshyn recalls how people seemed to
think all they did was party and do drugs, which was completely
untrue. But if fraternities and sororities are not the mad houses that
Hollywood portrays, what are they like?
Manitoba Fraternities
Adam Chown, the president of the Manitoba chapter of Delta Upsilon,
talks favorably about his fraternity experience. He explains how
joining a fraternity gives people skills and experiences that round
out university life and helps them move into the real world.
"I feel I have a huge leg up on people who haven't had these
experiences," he says. Synyshyn describes fraternities and
sororities as "a unique opportunity to enhance the university
experience with the grounded tradition of something that has been
working since the birth of the United States and Canada."
There are four fraternities and three sororities in Manitoba, and they
are typically much smaller than their counterparts in the United
States. Each frat or sorority is broken into smaller groups called
chapters. Each chapter is unique with ranks and private meetings, but
they also have ties to their larger international group. There is a
group called the Greek Council which unites all the fraternities and
sororities and helps to keep them aware of what other Greek members
are doing. The Greek Council also helps organize promotional programs
like traveling to high schools and promoting fraternities and
sororities on the university campuses.
Political and social activities vary from chapter to chapter, but many
groups take part in raising money for good causes and volunteering in
the community. Groups have completed blood drives, donated to Ronald
MacDonald house, and taken part in mentoring. They also participate in
recruitment events, have group meetings and, of course, have social
and fun events. However, the fun events are not the equivalent of what
the movies show.
"We do not have mass crazy parties. First, we don't have the
members for them and second, those sorts of things just don't go on
here," said Leanne McCaw, president of the Beta Theta chapter of
Alpha Delta Pi.
A large part of the stereotypical fraternity or sorority is a large
house with all the members living inside. However, the house does not
come with the membership. Many Greek groups in Manitoba don't have an
official house. Synyshyn explains that his fraternity has weekly
meetings at the University of Manitoba but they do not all live
together. A house gives a more tangible sense of community, but it is
only a dream for some of the smaller groups in Manitoba.
Lack of awareness is one issue that Manitoba groups have to deal with.
"We don't have enough recognition. I don't think people even know
we exist," says Chown.
Manitoba Greek groups struggle compared to those in the United States.
"In the United States people go to university looking to join a
fraternity. In Canada they have to make a decision to join,"
Chown says.
Synyshyn remarks that in the United States, people will gather from
all over the country to go to a specific university. In his opinion it
is different in Manitoba. Most people come from less of a distance and
fraternities and sororities are not used in order to meet people in
the same way.
So how do people learn about fraternities and sororities? It is often
through a friend or a family member. Synyshyn describes his older
brother as the one who got him interested in fraternities. Steve
Snyder, a member and social chair of the Zeta Psi fraternity, got
involved through meeting people in student politics. Others talked
about being invited to meetings by their friends.
Joining a Greek group is not something to be done on a whim. Once a
person becomes a member, they are a member for life. Alumni can still
take part in group activities and many keep in contact with their
fraternity or sorority after graduation. Members brag about famous
people that were members of their group. Apparently there is a Delta
Kappa Epsilon flag on the moon.
Each group's orientation procedure is unique, however generally when a
person shows interest in joining a fraternity or sorority, they can be
invited to become a pledge member. During that time they commit
themselves to learning about the group. At the end of their pledge
period they can become a member. Members are initiated and become part
of the group.
Initiations are an aspect of fraternities and sororities that people
are intensely interested in. However, most initiation ceremonies are
closely guarded secrets in the Greek community. The Delta Upsilon
fraternity prides itself on having no secrets and Chown, the chapter
president, was able to talk about their initiation process. He
explains that the frat members dress up in their ceremonial suits, an
initiation oath is read, and the new members sign their names in the
role book. He compares it to a graduation ceremony, but it is a
beginning, not an end. Hazing is not part of any fraternity or
sorority's initiation process. Hazing is strictly prohibited and any
group that is found doing it is in danger of being shut down.
"I think a lot of girls are surprised how welcoming we are
because we're not what they see in the movies," says McCaw of how
painless the initiation process was.
The secrets that these groups hold are both an attraction and
repulsion for students.
"To me they're more like traditions that have been passed down
through generations," says Synyshyn.
Secret System and Community
McCaw describes the secrets as being an essential part of the Greek
system. "That's (the secrets) definitely a big part of why people
have pride in what they're joining, because it's not a book
club," she says. "It's something that you have privileges in
membership that other people don't have the privilege of, and I think
that's what makes it exciting and that's what makes people proud of
the letters that they wear."
Just as Delta Upsilon is known for having no secrets, the Zeta Psi
fraternity is known for having secrets. "Everything we do is
pretty hush-hush," says member Steve Snyder. He explains that
unlike most Greek groups, Zeta Psi do not wear their letters on
campus. Members often do not make known what positions they hold in
the group, or even if they are in the fraternity at all. Even the
number of members in the group is confidential.
"We're a little more secretive and a little more selective,"
Snyder says. He explains that it is more likely for Zeta Psi to
approach people and invite them to join the frat than it is for people
to approach Zeta Psi and ask to join.
A recurring theme in conversations with members of Greek groups is the
concept of community. Fraternities and sororities can become like
families. Fellow group members are called brothers and sisters. Snyder
says, "When I see one of my frat brothers, it's my brother, not
just some guy in my frat."